Looking for Love in All The Wrong Places
Posted: August 27th, 2006, 3:44 am
How's that song go? "Lookin' for love in all the wrong places......"
In all the years of advising, or responding, to queries from seekers who are discouraged because they can't find God, or peace, or happiness, despite all their practices, almost without fail, when they dig a little deeper, they discover that their failure in their efforts is a result of divided priorities, or mixed priorities, not realizing that the very word "priority" suggests one prior goal or focus above ALL ELSE, and it is this distractability and lack of consistent focus that inevitably lies at the heart of the failures.
It was Jesus that said "You cannot serve two masters." There is really no mystery or secret in this formula, it is a simple statement of fact, and it doesn't have to even apply to the spiritual search. It can be applied to any aspect of life -- even the most worldy endeavor does not succeed without focus and priority. If one is constantly divided, allotting one priority today, and another tomorrow, is it any wonder that we do not reach any goal, and are bewildered by a life that is frequently scattered, inconsistent, and chaotic.
The scattered mind creates a scattered life, no two ways about it. Thus, the reason for meditation, prayer, or any other spiritual discipline aimed at settling down to a routine of quiet contemplation, is simply to learn to discipline an otherwise undisciplined mind, a mind which normally is distracted by its own ruminations, and its senses by every breeze that comes its way and is felt by the body and interpreted by a distracted mind. To assume that God will simply be discernable and accessible to a mind that is consumed by desires and constantly seeks stimulation, is to live by wishful thinking and a hopeful adolescence.
Anything worth getting is worth working for, and a price is inevitably charged in exchange for that valuable and priceless prize. For some odd reason, we think that spiritual access and success should come free, and easily, while we do not object to working our bones off for a new car, a house, or other costly achievements. But when it comes to getting in touch with God, the ultimate achievement and the most costly "object" around, we dabble in it, and then wonder why nothing has come of that dabbling. Indeed, if we were to expend similar time and effort toward a more worldly achievement, such as music, art, writing, or a career in law, medicine, or the like, we would expect to devote years of concentrated and focused work and effort toward mastering that area of expertise. I ask, why should a career in God be any different?
So, then, the way is clear....the only demand from God is total devotion and concentration. In the thick of the world, it is frequently a great sacrifice to turn in that direction with any heroic or heartfelt determination, primarily because of habit and years of conditioning to turn in the opposite direction. I believe that is probably the rationale for retreat, or withdrawal, or a kind of hermitage life style, at least in the beginning.
In all the years of advising, or responding, to queries from seekers who are discouraged because they can't find God, or peace, or happiness, despite all their practices, almost without fail, when they dig a little deeper, they discover that their failure in their efforts is a result of divided priorities, or mixed priorities, not realizing that the very word "priority" suggests one prior goal or focus above ALL ELSE, and it is this distractability and lack of consistent focus that inevitably lies at the heart of the failures.
It was Jesus that said "You cannot serve two masters." There is really no mystery or secret in this formula, it is a simple statement of fact, and it doesn't have to even apply to the spiritual search. It can be applied to any aspect of life -- even the most worldy endeavor does not succeed without focus and priority. If one is constantly divided, allotting one priority today, and another tomorrow, is it any wonder that we do not reach any goal, and are bewildered by a life that is frequently scattered, inconsistent, and chaotic.
The scattered mind creates a scattered life, no two ways about it. Thus, the reason for meditation, prayer, or any other spiritual discipline aimed at settling down to a routine of quiet contemplation, is simply to learn to discipline an otherwise undisciplined mind, a mind which normally is distracted by its own ruminations, and its senses by every breeze that comes its way and is felt by the body and interpreted by a distracted mind. To assume that God will simply be discernable and accessible to a mind that is consumed by desires and constantly seeks stimulation, is to live by wishful thinking and a hopeful adolescence.
Anything worth getting is worth working for, and a price is inevitably charged in exchange for that valuable and priceless prize. For some odd reason, we think that spiritual access and success should come free, and easily, while we do not object to working our bones off for a new car, a house, or other costly achievements. But when it comes to getting in touch with God, the ultimate achievement and the most costly "object" around, we dabble in it, and then wonder why nothing has come of that dabbling. Indeed, if we were to expend similar time and effort toward a more worldly achievement, such as music, art, writing, or a career in law, medicine, or the like, we would expect to devote years of concentrated and focused work and effort toward mastering that area of expertise. I ask, why should a career in God be any different?
So, then, the way is clear....the only demand from God is total devotion and concentration. In the thick of the world, it is frequently a great sacrifice to turn in that direction with any heroic or heartfelt determination, primarily because of habit and years of conditioning to turn in the opposite direction. I believe that is probably the rationale for retreat, or withdrawal, or a kind of hermitage life style, at least in the beginning.